PROS / OkCupid asks you very specific questions that help you fine-tune your dating preferences more than other dating services.
CONS / There are no flirts or other shortcuts to communicating.
VERDICT / This might not be the best online dating site for shy people, but for many singles it will be a great place to meet potential dates.
OkCupid, our Top Ten Reviews Bronze Award winner, facilitates dating with features like Quickmatch and a steady stream of questions that help define your personality and make for the best possible matches. You can filter your searches to match your preferences for age, proximity and relationship expectations so you don't end up on a date with someone who wants completely different things.
Profiles & Matching
The personality questions are different on OkCupid because they are coupled with the answers you will accept, not just the answers you give. For instance, a question about whether astrological sign is important in a match is accompanied by a question about what answer you would accept on the topic from a potential mate. If you value astrology very highly you will not be paired with someone who thinks it is nonsense. You may be very tidy but don't mind a messy partner, or you may be tidy and expect the same from a partner. This service takes all of that into account as it recommends matches for you.
You can also indicate how important the response to each question is to you – a little, somewhat or very. Responses do not just disappear into the background to inform your own choices for a match, like they do on other online dating websites. OkCupid compares your answers to those of potential matches. In the site's own words, "We use math to get you dates." This service analyzes your answers in an algorithm that takes into account more than just a handful of matching answers with another person, including margin of error, and it constantly puts question prompts on your homepage to collect more responses upon which to base your matches.
This is the only service in our online dating reviews that has all of the search functions we wanted. You can narrow you pool of potential matches by keyword, activity status and specific profile criteria. Specific options with OK Cupid include Looks, where you can narrow the search by height, body type and attractiveness. There is also a category called Background for ethnicity and language, and a category called Vices where you can narrow your search by how often potential matches drink, smoke or do drugs.
You also get to decide what type of relationships you pursue, which can include everything from New Friends to Long-term. OkCupid also logs all of the people who look at your profile and lets you make a list of your favorites.
The website does not offer many tools for helping the shy to communicate – no flirts or other abbreviated messaging tools. If you are interested in a match you can send a message to them. If you are not ready you can Like them or bookmark them. There also is a smartphone app to help you communicate.
Help & Support
If you have questions along the way you can contact OkCupid via email. There are no telephone numbers or chat windows, though. You have to wait for the response to the email form. Competing dating sites offer more options.
A few more options for communication would be nice, but OkCupid is still one of the top online dating sites because of its logical approach to making matches. The math that goes into each suggested coupling increases your chances for a real connection, and the related app makes it possible to stay in the loop at all times.